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Philosophically entangled

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Women and tears.

When Jesus was crucified, we all know those who shed tears!
When we have funerals in our villages, we all know those who wail!
When accidents occur, we all know those who cry and feel for the dead and injured.
When couples are fighting, who cries the most?
When life gets tough..............................................................

Why do women behave so? Well, it's nature, through child bearing, they know the real pain of bringing forth life, whereas men are mere dispensers, women feel the weight through the nine month period.Still,after that taking care of the young ones takes a toll on them, hence they feel whenever one is in pain.

Women are not only sympathetic but empathetic.While most men will only sympathise, women do empathise.They share their problems and easily open up compared to men who are macho and hard core.Through out my stay with my  Father, I never saw him cry, let alone drop a tear,despite the many difficulties he underwent in this God given soil.

Perhaps the time is high and nigh that we should rethink this issue of men being "hardcore",unflinching and persevering through trying times:I hear that's what makes one a man.When I went into the Bush in River Itarek that morning when a boy was being transformed into a man, one thing was implanted in us"A man must be a man."So whenever a man sheds tears, it's assumed that it's such a weighty matter. I don't need to remind you that it's on record that even high Ranking officers have ever cried in public. (I see no problem with this)

We should rethink and unlearn this issue.Could this explain why men die earlier than women? Is this the reason why we got many widows? Society expects too much from the boy child for example.While girls have been given a lot of attention, it's assumed that boys can take care of themselves since they are tough.

I reminisce, as a young lad in class four at Nyamaharaga Primary, I would be asked to escort my form three aunt to the shop at night, well, then it didn't occur to me that I was being used!We should let boys be boys but not expect too much from them, we should let them be kids as well.

Back to this crying business.

At one point I had a tough Giriama lady as my neighbour in Ganjoni in Mombasa, she was married to a Teso guy from Amukura.One night a scuffle ensued in their house at night, the Lady was really wailing...when neighbours went in, they found the Lady on top of the guy really disciplining him.Now instead of people sympathising with this guy, they ended up beating the guy seriously!

What then is this crying business?

You'll find two ladies bumping into each other in town, greeting one another until tears roll down their cheeks... Meaning women also express joy through tears as well.Men,unfortunately express joy through shouting!

In church, it's known that those who get involved emotionally are women!They cry, wail, roll name it, no wonder some rogue pastors take advantage of them! (Naija movies).

Women, it cannot be gainsaid, are emotional in nature.Who,for instance, suffers most in any breakup? (you'll tell me), why?

It's therefore necessary that we should accept them as they are for we will never understand them, I tell you.We cannot change them for real.They are just that way.No one can explain why they behave the way they do.

See!

I remain
FK
Intelligence Analyst

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